Husband Wants Us To Meet Escorts

I am a 34 year old woman who has been married for 5 years. My husband is 32 years old, but he is more outgoing than me. Our marriage is good, we have the usual arguments over money and family etc The issue really is that y husband always tells me that I can be boring sometimes. Well I am a much ore reserved character than he is. I didn't really go through a wild in y early twenties as I was studying to become a doctor. My husband is the complete opposite. He was and still is a bit of a party animal. I think that is what attracted me to him. Admittedly he liked how I was so level headed and that I didn't jump into bed with hi on the first few dates. In a way my personality helps to keep him grounded, he said. However sometimes I just feel like he wants to be around a more fun person. Our love life is OK, but I know I my husband wants so much more from me. He likes to watch porn but I don't. I find it degrading against women. I have tried dressing up for him, but find I can't adopt a role of being sexy. I just don't have the confidence. I know it frustrates him as his previous girlfriends were so much more wilder. Also as well we hardly go out together as a couple. He has different interests to hat I have. He likes going to concerts, music festivals etc. I prefer going to the theatre or admittedly I am so tired from work usually, I just like watching TV, with a nice hot cup of tea. Even though we have nice weekend in watching box set drama's on catch up television, I can't help but think he wants to do something more exciting. I feel sometimes I am holding him back from the life he wants and he has just settled for second best. Also I know he loves me, but I think he is just too nice of a person to leave me.

Then one day he was reading a woman's again I had bought lunch hour, earlier that day. It as about trying to spice up your marriage. He started discussing the topic, but I a a sort of person who doesn't feel confident talking on that subject. I am not that wild adventurous lady and I don't think I will ever be. Well his best friend is a club promoter who is holding a fetish club night in Soho. My husband thought it would b great to go along. I am mortified of the idea of going. It is not something that has ever crossed my mind. I am not sure due to my professional standing if it is something I should associate myself with, Well going to this fetish club night became a topic of conversation for the next couple of days. It was a conversation I did not feel too comfortable engaging in. I as happy for him to go, but he really wanted to attend. I think in a way to see if it could make me come out of my shell. I did some research online and even asked y friend who went to these types of things with her partner. As my husband sees my friend as being more fun, I sometimes feel like I am being compared; especially when he comes out with certain comments. He always goes on how she is so different to me and how we manage to be friends. Well he does not know her and she actually changed when she met her current partner. Maybe she did so to impress him as she seems to not be as adventurous as she presents herself as. We talk and I get the impression she is just trying to impress. Ultimately she doesn't seem 100% comfortable with her lifestyle. The major thing that has happened that I need advice on is I caught y husband looking at an escort website. When I confronted him he as open about why he as looking for an escort. He wanted to book an escort to go with us to the fetish club. So at least I had somebody to talk to if I got a bit bored while he as socialising with his club promoter friend.

Well I was shocked because I did not know how to take this. He wanted us to meet the escort for a few drinks first to see if I liked her. I am just not sure of his motivation for this. It has never come up in conversation before. Fair enough he watches porn on his computer, I did not make much of a fuss about that. However us meeting up as a couple to see an escort - I just don't know why? Does he expect us to do anything other then socialise with her? What should I do? I don't want to always say no everything he suggests?

Advice:

Hi, you stated to do not ant to say no to everything your husband suggests. Well it is your right to say no if you are not comfortable. Marriage and relationships in general are built on compromise. However you should not feel pressured or obliged to do anything you don't want to. There are escorts for married couples and many people are looking to experience this type of escort service. Obviously individual couples have their on reasons for meeting escorts. Remember an escort only provides time and companionship. Nothing else. There are people who hide behind the term 'escort' who offer services that fall way outside that. hat you need to ask your husband is what are his expectations for meeting the escort. You need to have that direct conversation with him. It could be exactly hat he says in regards of you having somebody to talk to if you decide to go to the fetish club event. It could be testing you to see if you are capable of doing what he sees as something daring. Communication and honesty is the best ay to deal with this. If you are struggling to approach this matter by yourself then you could suggest relationship counselling. It sounds like you feel in some ay inadequate of making your husband happy in certain areas of your relationship. Remember he loves you and maybe him anting to book an escort is his misguided ay to try and spice up things. Talking honestly about how you feel is the best ay to start. Also relationship counselling could really help you talk about this and any other issues you are facing.

If you do decide to meet up with an escort then it is good to do some research about this. Why not read our article on Choosing An Escort Service.